How To Stop Being A Nice Guy And Be A Man With Self-Esteem?
We as humans since our childhood have been taught that “the world is full of bad people so you be a nicer one”. As it seems this should be the case also. By the virtue of being humans one should possess the qualities that makes one better than other living creatures, qualities like kindness, honesty and having a pure heart. By all being nice man together we can make the world a better place. The problem arises when one ‘pretends’ to be a nicer person to conform to societal expectations. The two problems that I can personally figure out here are:
- Being nice at the cost of one’s self esteem: The term self-esteem refers to a person’s belief about their own and value. Self-esteem of a person is really important because it drives a man to make best decisions and choices for himself. Now what happens is sometimes people are taught to be nice even to people who have betrayed them or cheated on them or basically hurt them. However, the problem is not in being nice rather the problem is when you try to be nice at the cost of your self-esteem. One should never settle his/her standards less. One should never tolerate any kind of disloyalty, cheat and disrespect in the name of being a nice man. This destroys one’s internal happiness and health.
- As it is beautifully said “to be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself”. Always remember if you pretend to be a nice man sooner or later you will end up hurting yourself.
It is thus better to be yourself first. Never let anyone affect your self-esteem since it is the one thing that sticks with you, that makes you feel that you are precious and valuable.